"There’s something about the process of becoming who you’re meant to be that helps you uncover what’s been there all along."
Self Love for me means loving yourself enough to take care of the one body God gave me. It means working on my outside appearance because on the inside, I know I’m worth it... embracing all the unique traits that make me who I am.
Taking care of my physical health is one of my favorite ways to stay healthy and it effects everything else. Moving my body daily and fueling it with the right food is key. It helps me regulate my emotions, especially on bad days when I need a way to release my anger, frustration, or sadness. And it helps me stay connected to God because it has become a ministry for me. My goal is to reach as many people as possible and inspire them to take care of the body God gave them. And now as an Online Health and Fitness Coach, I’m able to see people change their habits in my accountability groups, which ultimately leads to changing their lives. But it also reminds me daily that I can do all things through Christ and how grateful I am for the opportunity to take care of the temple He gave me.
The Self Love I have now has not always been there. Growing up, my confidence was very low. I didn’t get guys’ attention like everyone else did so I thought I wasn’t good enough. I liked things that the "Black" kids typically didn’t like: Broadway musicals, singing in chorus, modern dance over hip hop, so I thought being “different” was a bad thing. I actually grew up feeling ostracized, like I didn’t belong. There was a long period of time when I didn’t care about how I dressed or how I carried myself. Things really started to change for me in 2013. I cut off all of my chemically processed straight hair and “went natural”, the first step in embracing the woman God had created me to be instead of following a standard of beauty. By this point I loved shopping (thrift shopping is a sport for me!) and started caring more about how I presented myself. I started my weightloss journey in 2014 after a 3-month internship on the other side of the country- God had to take me all the way to Utah with a group of strangers to help me realize my worth. In 2017, I made one more big change to my hair and started locs. My goal has been to make the outside match how I feel on the inside, and all of these changes have helped me see just how beautiful, disciplined, driven, and worthy I truly am.
My advice to any woman struggling with their self image would be this- “if you don’t like something, change it!” You just have to start! There’s something about the process of becoming who you’re meant to be that helps you uncover what’s been there all along. You are fearfully and wonderfully made- no really, wrap your head around the fact that He made you to be exactly who you are and He knows what He’s doing! You are beautiful, you are beautifully flawed, and you’re worth it. No matter what that “it” is- worth the wait, worth waking up every morning to workout before work, worth taking the extra time to get dressed up or put on a little makeup- you’re worth it