Four Ways to Follow: Social Media Disconnection

March 17, 2019

A lot of my friends have been fasting social media lately. To be honest, I wasn't comfortable with that. I'm in a few different group chats with various lovely ladies as well as social apps and platforms and to be honest, their absence created some boredom for me. I mean, I know I could have just picked up the phone or texted them, but there's something about social media that has created a false sense of importance in my life. Maybe even in yours.


And I had to ask myself the question, why?


Why was I bothered? Why was the absence of second to second video messages or hearts or dings such a big deal to me? When had it become a big deal?


In this day and age, it would be difficult to find someone who isn't connected on some sort of social media. Although these sites do have their many benefits, it's easy to get too caught up in them. So we have to make it important to figure out the right ways to have a health relationship with social media. An unhealthy relationship with Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. can create false senses of reality within your  your friendships, your self esteem and your perspective on life. Yeah, that statement seems far fetched, but did you know that, according to TIME magazine, 28% of  iPhone users check their social media before even getting out of bed in the morning. Talk about a false sense of importance!

We're all aware of that social media can be (medically) addictive. It's not far fetched. It's reality, but when we care more about the appearance of reality, rather than the actual thing, it's not just a danger to our social lives, it can also be a danger to our spiritual lives as well. 


"Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;" -2 Corinthians 10:5


It's not productive or God-centered to focus on things that are not real. In truth, what we are really searching for as we scroll is a sense of connection, identity and worth. This is why I think I had an irritation at my friends who fast for weeks at a time. We don't live in the same cities and their absence from apps made me feel lonely and disconnect. I felt social media was a convenient tool to keep in touch and stay relevant in each other's lives, since we can't connect often in person because of our distance. Notice I said, "feel". This wasn't at all the case, however. One friend, in particular, called me just to tell me I was on her mind. She was using her time to refocus her attention on her family and to plug into her new surroundings without being distracted by images and updates of the home she had to leave behind. Keeping up with me would always be a priority, so she decided to call me instead of an impersonal text message or casual IG comment. Imagine my embarrassment! All this time, I was thinking about the pictures of her move and her family that I hadn't seen and the pictures and video of my family that she hadn't seen. But I was on her mind, which is more special than any notification could ever be!  So if we dig deep and welcome some truth, there are many things we are searching for that social media cannot give us, because we already have it!


1. Truth Isn't Created through Social Media

Like in my situation, if we look to social media to determine who people are or what they really think about us, we will be mislead. We cannot rely on social media to know truth. In order to know truth we must know God through Jesus Christ. We see this in John 14:6, when Jesus tells his disciples: “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”


2. Our Worth Isn't Established on Social Media

Identity is lacking in our generation. Too many of us are looking at the lives of others and comparing who we are or where we are with what we see in someone else's feed. It's easy to do and common. And if we aren't careful, social media will find ourselves playing the one-up game. Never intentional but definitely possible. Why? Because if we place our worth on the approval of other people, then we will never find inward satisfaction. 


"Obviously, I'm not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ's servant." -Galations 1:10 


Basing our worth on fake feedback of the cyber world will only leave us perpetually stuck in a trap of performance. But God’s security, acceptance and value over us is not based on anything we do. It is abundantly available to us, free of charge and no maximum of likes can ever compete with that!


3. Social Media Isn't Meant to Provide Us Love

Heart emojis and little red hearted likes have dulle